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On that day he begins to be old

 "I dread to come to the end of the year,said a friend to me recently, "it makes me realize I am growing old.”

William James, the great psychologist, said that most men are "old fogies at twenty-five",He was right. Most men at twenty-five are satisfied with their jobs. They have accumulated the little stock of prejudices that they call their "Principles, " and closed their minds to all new ideas; they have ceased to grow.

The minutea man ceases to grow-no matter what his years-that minute he begins to be old. On the other hand, the really great man never grows old.

Goethe passed out at eighty-three, and finished his Faust only a few years earlier; Gladstone took up a new language when he was seventy.

Laplace, the astronomer, was still at work when death caught up with him at seventy-eight. He died crying, "What we know is nothing; what we do not know is immense."

And there you have the real answer to the question, "When is a man old?"

Laplace at seventy-eight died young. He was still unsatisfied, still sure that he had a lot to learn.

As long as a man can keep himself in that attitude of mind, as long as he can look back on every year and say , "I grew," he is still young.

The minute he ceases to grow, the minute he says to himself, "I know all that I need to know,"--that day youth stops. He may be twenty-five or seventy-five, it makes no difference. On that day he begins to be old.

by seungdd | 2017-06-14 17:06

Choose happy so happy

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He wasdermes always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

  He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

  Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don"t get it! You can"t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

  Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, "Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood." I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."

  "Yeah, right, it"s not that easy," I protested.

  "Yes, it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It"s your choice how you live life."

  I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

  Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe(保险柜), his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off (忘记,遗漏)the combination (开启号码锁的号码组合)。 The robbers panicked and shot him.

  Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma (创伤,外伤)center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

  I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked dermes him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I"d be twins. Wanna see my scars(伤疤)?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.

  "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live."

  "Weren"t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.

  Jerry continued, "The paramedics (护理人员)were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, "He"s a dead man." "I knew I needed to take action."

  "What did you do?" I asked.

  "Well, there was a big, burly (魁梧的,结实的)nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry.

  "She asked if I was allergic (过敏的)to anything. "Yes," I replied. The Playgroup doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, "Bullets!"

  Over their laughter, I told them. "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

  Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.

  Attitude, after all, is everything.
by seungdd | 2017-02-10 15:42

The Essence of Charm

  Charm is the ultimate weapon, the supreme seduction, against which there are few defenses. If you've got it, you need neither money, looks, nor pedigree. It's a gift, given only to give away, and the more used, the more there is storage rack. It is also a climate of behavior set for perpetual summer and thermostatically controlled by taste and tact.  True charm is an aura, an invisible musk in the air; if you see it working, the spell is broken. Charm is dynamic, and cannot be turned on and off at will. As to its ingredients, there is no fixed formula. A whole range of mysteries goes into the caldron, but the magic it offers must be absolute-one cannot be "almost" or "partly" charmed.  In a woman, charm is probably more exacting than in a man, requiring a wider array of subtleties. It is a light in the face, an air of exclusive welcome, an almost impossibly sustained note of satisfaction in one's company, and regret without fuss at parting. A woman with charm finds no man dull; indeed, in her presence he becomes not just a different person but the person he most wants to be. Such a woman gives life to his deep-held fantasies by adding the necessary conviction to his long suspicion that he is king.  Of those women who have most successfully charmed me I remember chiefly their voices and eyes. Their voices were intimate and enveloping. The listening eyes, supreme charm in a woman, betrayed no concern with any other world than this, warmly wrapping one round with total attention and turning one's lightest words to gold. Theirs was a charm that must have continued to exist, like the flower in the desert, even when there was nobody there to see it.  A woman's charm spreads round her that particular glow of well-being for which any man will want to seek her out and, by making full use of her nature, celebrates the fact of his maleness and so gives him an extra shot of life. Her charm lies also in that air of timeless maternalism, that calm and pacifying presence, which can dispel a man's moments of frustration and anger and restore his failures of will Payroll Hong Kong.  Charm in a man, I suppose, is his ability to capture the complicity of a woman by a single-minded acknowledgment of her uniqueness. Here again it is a question of being totally absorbed, of really forgetting that anyone else exists, for nothing more fatally betrays than the suggestion of a wandering eye. Silent devotion is fine, but seldom sufficient; it is what a man says that counts, the bold declarations, the flights of fancy, the uncovering of secret virtues. A man is charmed through his eyes, a woman by what she hears, so no man need to be too anxious about his age: As wizened Voltaire once said: "Give me a few minutes to talk away my face and I can seduce the Queen of France."  But charm isn't exclusively sexual; it comes in a variety of cooler flavors. Most children have it--till they are told they have it--and so do old people with nothing to lose; animals, too, of course. With children and smaller animals, it is often in the shape of the head and in the chaste unaccusing stare; with young girls and ponies, a certain stumbling awkwardness, a leggy inability to control their bodies. But all these are passive and appeal by capturing one's protective instincts.  You know who has charm. But can you acquire it? Properly, you can't, because it's an originality of touch you have to be born with. Or it's something that grows naturally out of another quality, like the simple desire to make people happy. Certainly, charm is not a question of learning palpable tricks, like wrinkling your nose, or having a laugh in your voice. On the other hand, there is an antenna, a built-in awareness of others, which most people have, and which care can nourish.  But in a study of charm, what else does one look for? Apart from the ability to listen--rarest of all human virtues--apart from warmth, sensitivity, and the power to please, there is a generosity which makes no demands. Charm spends itself willingly on young and old alike, on the poor, the ugly, the dim, the boring, on the last fat man in the corner. It reveals itself also in a sense of ease, in casual but perfect manners, and often in a physical grace which springs less from an accident of youth than from a confident serenity of mind. Any person with this is more than just a popular fellow; he is also a social healer Makeup course.  Charm, in the end, is a most potent act of behavior, the laying down of a carpet by one person for another to give his existence a moment of honor. It is close to love in that it moves without force, bearing gifts like the growth of daylight. It snares completely, but is never punitive. It disarms by being itself disarmed, strikes without wounds, wins wars without casualties--though not, of course, without victims.  In the armory of man, charm is the enchanted dart, light and subtle as a hummingbird. But it is deceptive in one thing--like a sense of humor, if you think you've got it, you probably haven't.
by seungdd | 2017-01-17 15:57

Every Woman is Beautiful

  A little boy asked god,god,why do woman cry so easily Hong Kong Reiseveranstaltung? god said when I made woman ,she had to be special. I made her shoulder strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet, gentle enough to give comfort. I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when anyone else gives up and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any in all circumstances .Even when her child has hurt her very badly, I gave her strenghth to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from her rip to protect his heart. I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strength and her resolve to stand beside him unforcingly travel industry news. And finally I gave her a tear to shade.This is hers, exclusively to use whenever it is needed. You see the beauty of woman is not in the clothes she wears,the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of the woman must be seen in her eyes. Because that is the doorway to her heart,the place where love resides. Every woman is beautiful Top 10 attractions in Hong Kong.
by seungdd | 2016-12-20 16:19

The moonlight homesickness

Phoenix has been old, a floating, lost half of the fall of fireworks. Yan Ying has to go, the cicadas have rest, Phoenix Mountains has fade. Yingying the moonlight, only the autumn insect accent has not changed, all the sound, not help singing. Small quiet window, wandering alone Accounting in HK, the moon waxes, gradually into the late autumn.

Alone in a foreign land, wandering night difficult sleep. Standing in the window, looked round at the Bing Xin dome in Dongsheng and cage, also the twilight remaining mist. Sometimes a wisp of smoke such as yarn, a hazy moonlight as milk; sometimes a lonely swan goose like a pen, painting a round moon picturesque.

A POU moonlight, brushed gable, leaning against the house, reflecting a curtain bamboo Shan Shan, according to one watt light Lin Lin. The thick moonlight as strong tea, like thick Xiang Yun Xiang far.

On the floor of the moon, a moon like a window at home but a shadow, moon is a poor, less the hometown moonlight warm -- as the mother's arms like warmth.

The quartzite warm hometown moonlight according to warm the alley, so home child always likes to sit in the alley to the mother speaking that month myth; warm hometown moonlight according to warm the Gujing springs, so home children like mother well boiled out of the mush; warm hometown moonlight shone warm embrace of the mother, so home children always cannot do without the gentle...... Warm hometown moonlight is still far from home Income Tax Hong Kong, the window of the poor wandering Rouchang grieved.

I can't bear to look at this strange moonlight, close your eyes, leaning in the window, leaning on floor, such as listening to a song to sing. A hometown bridges murmuring, a tick home evening drizzle, a boisterous children laughter, and mother smoke curl in calling. A native of notes, a whisper, moonlight as shallow sing, home of the usual?

Grows large, drifting further and further away. Through the numerous hills and streams, see Xiao Wu Xi cloud, even the rain at dusk, nor the most beautiful hometown moonlight.

Put on a Gui Hua like snow, a shoulder moonlight as cream. Hand out the window, take a moonlight, closing the fingers, Business Registry Hong Kong let not the thick Xiang Yun flow away.

"Hometown moonlight, as the hometown of childhood alley, on both sides of the wall, autumn insects do not live dialectal tactfully, end with you towards the long, long, long alley, where there is a window through the night do not put out the light. The most familiar gatehouse, a couple is on Yuanwang, hair on the temples as moonlight silvery white." This should be a wanderer had a dream......
by seungdd | 2013-09-13 13:25

China is increasing its influence

After a speech to the Foreign Correspondents' Association in Sydney on Thursday, Ms Gillard was asked if Australia's influence was waning as China stepped up its presence in places like Fiji.

The prime minister recognised China's growing power.

"As China's weight and power continues to rise then of course it will have a stronger and more diverse relationships around the world, including in the Pacific," she said.

Ms Gillard said Australia wanted to see more countries working in aid and development in the Pacific, but believed there needed to be more accountability cheap furniture stores.

"We believe that aid and development money needs to be the subject of proper accountabilities and transparencies so people can see the work that is being done," she said.

On Fiji, Ms Gillard said Australia continued to look forward to "free and fair" elections next year being held in the island republic which has been run by Commodore Frank Bainimarama since a 2006 military coup International Relocation.

"We stand ready to assist with preparations for those elections, for the conduct of those elections," she said.

"We believe that Commodore Bainimarama needs to be held to his promises and accountability and they need to be held on time and property done Claire Hsu."
by seungdd | 2013-04-05 17:14

The strides made in gender equality are good

THERE WERE SOME interesting outcomes when the Constitutional Convention discussed women and their roles. The most striking was the vote of 62 per cent of delegates that, while article 40 provides that ‘all citizens shall, as human persons, be held equal before the law’ the Constitution ‘should be amended to include an explicit provision on gender equality’. It was good to see this.

It is now 20 years since the 1993 Report of the Second Commission on the Status of Women recommended a constitutional amendment to prohibit gender discrimination. There is a more sellable spin to underlining equality than to outlawing discrimination. Have we reached a point where gender equality is a given? Aren’t there a few issues we need to address first – like the gender pay gap, exclusions in equal status legislation, Claire Hsu gender inequality in the social welfare system, pension rights for women who contributed to that national common good? Let us start the countdown now on how long it will be before a clearly worded amendment on gender equality is put to voters.

‘The role of women’
Gender equality was central to the vote on article 41.2, for which the Forum used the shorthand ‘Role of Women’. Article 41.2.1 lays out how woman’s ‘life within the home’ provides ‘to the State a support without which the common good cannot be achieved’. It is married with the article the State forgot, 41.2.2: the one with the promise that it will ‘endeavour to ensure that economic necessity does not force women into the workplace to the neglect of their duties in the home’; the one that places no financial obligation on it to defend such women against ‘economic necessity’ and is thankfully vague on what the ‘duties’ comprise.

41.2 is considered inadequate for a number of reasons, the most pressing being that it does not reflect the reality of women’s lives when more than half of those with children are in employment. The Convention voted to amend article 41.2.1 by a margin of 88 per cent to 12 per cent (the latter favouring deletion). A massive 98 per cent called for a gender-neutral amendment that would cover all carers in the home and, in a further vote, 62 per cent considered ‘carers beyond the home should be included.’

The importance of care work
Depending on how it were worded (and there’s the rub) such an amendment might be an important step towards recognising not only the central importance to society of all care work but also the need for caring to be seen as men’s as well as women’s responsibility. As the National Women’s Council of Ireland (NWCI) pointed out in its submission to the Convention, women do still take on (and sometimes have thrust upon them) primary responsibility for care work, Crash proof phone protector both in the home and in the wider community’. Some 61 per cent of carers are female, they undertake two thirds of all care hours, while 86 per cent of childcare carried is out by women. Recognising the importance of men’s contributions and creating the expectation that they will share caring obligations would be a step forward.

A vote on the levels of obligation article 41.2.2 should place on the state to support carers in the home was divided on the fine detail – but 30 per cent suggested that the State ‘shall support’ them, 35 per cent felt it should ‘provide a reasonable level of support’, and 20 per cent that it should ‘endeavour to support’ them. Against a background of cuts that hit carers particularly hard, it seems unlikely that that vote will carry any weight in the real world.

Women in politics
The Convention also examined whether the Constitution should ‘place a duty on the State to take positive action to enhance women’s participation in politics’. The vote was 49 per cent for and 50 per cent against – so close that, when taken with the evidence of women’s under-representation, it surely behoves the State to introduce the protections necessary to ensure Ireland is a democracy. It cannot call itself one when the interests of more than half the citizens are not represented.

One strange point on a statement by Convention Chair Tom Arnold, dated 13 February, was that ‘according to available research, women are hugely under-represented in public life’, as if something new might pop up to say they are not. Women make up 51 per cent of the population but only 17 per cent of councillors are women (and quota legislation will not apply to local elections), only 15 per cent of TDs are women.

The first essential step identified by the NWCI may be achieved – ‘removing the women in the home clause’, with its implication that woman’s place is in the private sphere. They also called for recognition of active citizenship in community and local organisations, and for citizens to be enabled to initiate referendums – as was the case under the 1922 Constitution.

The elephant in the room
Whether we are talking about the roles of women or gender equality, the giant elephant in the room is the unaddressed 8th amendment, the one that has been used to define women’s rights as equal to those of a fertilised egg, an embryo or a foetus. It is the one that nullifies women’s rights to health and well-being. Alan Shatter admitted during the debate on Clare Daly’s X case legislation that: ‘the right of pregnant women to have their health protected is, mobile phone protector under our constitutional framework, a qualified right … This is a republic in which we proclaim the equality of all our citizens but the reality is that some citizens are more equal than others.’

There is tight State control of the issues the Convention will address. It is possible for it (rather than for us as citizens) to bring further issues to its final meeting at the end of November. If it is genuinely to address issues like women’s roles and equality, article 40.3.3 must also be on the agenda.

Sandra McAvoy teaches on and co-ordinates University College Cork’s MA in Women’s Studies Course.
by seungdd | 2013-03-08 19:05